Have you ever noticed that just one phrase or thought can completely change your life? In this article, you will find a whole set of such thoughts, and you will find out why some of the girl's actions were still incomprehensible to you.
Learning to understand girls is an elusive goal. And, unfortunately, many guys do not even realize that there are some "blocks" in learning that prevent them from getting off the ground.
By realizing the limitations that prevent you from understanding girls, and learning how to deal with them, you can make a serious leap forward.
Before you begin to gain experience in seduction more actively, you need to understand ...
What happens to you after reading the article
The human brain is a unique organ. However, along with useful properties, it also has negative ones.
Every time after reading an article, it distorts reality quite seriously. Your inner critic, having received a new portion of useful information, begins to make it turn into useless. And new knowledge flies past you.
For example, having received an algorithm in the style of “A + B + C + D”, this critic starts telling you: “Well, well,“ A ”doesn't quite suit me, because I have a different character. "B" will not work because ... "C" is generally a strange belief. Of course, I agree with "G", but I still apply it, although not 100%. "
On the one hand, critical thinking helps protect oneself from information. Especially if it is of no use whatsoever. But you must admit that for the most part this property of the human brain imposes a serious framework on your development. Moreover, the brain is so cleverly sophisticated over the information received that it turns into dust.
Your experience is your framework
Often times, your experience imposes certain limitations on you. Regardless of what it was (positive or negative), there is a high probability that you will have a slightly misunderstanding of reality.
For example, you are interested in learning how a certain dating phrase affects the final result. In one case, after using it, you managed to get to know a girl. In the second case, the result was also positive. And in the third - something didn't work out for you, and you don't know why you got exactly such a result.
Although in fact, in the first case, the result could turn out to be positive, because you were in a state of enthusiasm (after all, you wanted to try a new interesting phrase for acquaintance). In the second, the girl might have liked your communication style while dating, and she thought you were an interesting guy. And in the third, you were simply in an uncertain state, communicated uninterestingly, so you did not receive anything.
And since If you were interested in checking how well the template of the first phrase works, then you did not even pay attention to the other aspects.
Then you just started looking for other templates for dating and did not understand why your further attempts were not always crowned with success. Or, even worse, he deduced some kind of his own dependence of the result on different phrases and did not pay attention to anything else.
Of course, there are other distortions of reality. However, even this simple example demonstrates that your little experience can become a serious limitation for you. And, receiving the instruction "A + B", your brain will skillfully process it, and will make you closed to new information.
However, this problem has its own solution.
"The 100 Dating Theory"
The so-called contextual experience will help to cope with the effect of information distortion.
Many guys who studied the pickup admitted that after gaining practical experience, they already perceived the articles they read earlier in a completely different way. Reading them again, they understood the main essence and all the subtle points that the author wanted to warn them about.
However, to achieve such "enlightenment" it is not enough just to "try a couple of times."
Before you can understand girls, you have to do 100 dates. And the more varied these dates are, the more experience you'll get. This theory is called The 100 Dating Theory.
Having reached this figure, you will really discover new moments that you did not notice before (or, thanks to your cunning brain, did not want to notice :)).
It is not for nothing that they say that practical experience gives more than thousands of articles read.
Keeping a "pickup diary"
A good tool to help you learn to understand girls faster is a pickup diary.
By writing down how you communicated with the girl, what exactly you did, and what the girl's reaction was, you will quickly begin to understand the essence of the information that you receive from the articles.
Entanglement theory: from chaos to clear understanding
To accelerate your development several times, you must know about 4 states of "entanglement".
A Scotsman proposed a surprisingly accurate theory that characterizes our interaction with the environment and other people. In what follows, the interaction will be called the system. Systems can be chaotic, confusing and ordered (complex and simple).
If you project this theory on the development of seduction skills and the ability to understand girls, then:
1) A chaotic system is one in which you do not see dependence on your actions and the result you get from women. The only way to go to the next level is to put what is happening under some theory.
2) Intricate system. Here, oddly enough, everything is so confusing that there are several theories. Moreover, performing some action, you cannot be sure what exactly influenced the result (as in the example about testing different phrases for dating).
At this stage, it is important to actively experiment and your experiments should help to understand the essence of what is happening (which is very important for moving to the next level).
3) Ordered complex. In this system, there are working theories, applying which you get a positive result. True, the theories themselves dictate the fashion here, since there is no single truth in this system. In one situation, you apply one theory, in another, another. Your main motto at this stage is “Why it works - I don’t know, and I’m just guessing. It works, yes, okay. "
4) Ordered simple. There is a unified theory that helps you get the best possible option. In the sphere of seducing girls, only a few people achieve this level. They usually become professional seduction trainers and are able to propel you to a fairly high level at the snap of a finger.
These systems exist more in your head than in reality. Because one and the same situation may seem too confusing to you, and very understandable to an experienced seducer.
If you do not know how to seduce girls, but are already interested in a pickup truck, then now your interaction with the opposite sex can be considered a confusing system. And your main task is to move from it into an ordered complex system.
The "pickup diary" will help you with this. As you actively study articles, try to gain contextual experience no less actively by dating girls. When you start writing in your journal, try to remember the theory you read earlier.
As you remember, being in a "confused system", your main task is to actively form hypotheses and set up experiments that help clarify the situation. If you do not get the result you wanted (or you do not always get it), then you need to pay special attention to this aspect, experimenting with different models of behavior.
Let's go back to our example of testing different dating phrases. The moment you realize that the same phrase works in different ways, it is important to understand that it may not be the case.
Remembering your acquaintances, and describing in detail all the actions that you performed, you can make new assumptions (“At the moment of the first and second acquaintance, I communicated with the girl in one style, and at the moment of the third, in a completely different way. Therefore, most likely, it’s not a phrase, but how I communicated with her ”). And then confirm or refute the new theory.
After each communication with a girl, ask yourself the question: "Why did she behave this way?", "Why did I get just such a result?" The answers to these questions, combined with re-reading the articles, will help you quickly build your own hypotheses, and then learn to understand girls better.
After reading this article, you probably began to notice those mental barriers that prevented you from quickly moving to the next level in seducing women. It remains only to correctly apply the information received. And also learn to track the re-emergence of mental blocks and consciously overcome them.
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