How to quickly learn to communicate with girls

Communication skills are one of your tools for winning girls over. If this tool needs serious improvement, then now you will learn how to develop the skill of communicating with girls in the shortest possible time.

Some seducers say that you can seduce a girl without words. They are partly right: non-verbal, inner confidence and energy - all this affects the outcome of communication with each specific girl.

But you still need to understand that communication is a necessary component in interaction with the opposite sex. And it affects the outcome of the "battle" in the same way as your inner state. And sometimes it can compensate for some disadvantage.

Where to start developing communication skills with girls.

 All people can be roughly divided into 2 types:

1) Those who learn gradually, going to the result step by step.

2) Those who are accustomed to go to the very "hell" and study in difficult conditions (with gradual development, such people become uninteresting and they often "merge").

You should know which of these 2 types you belong to. And depending on this, choose the right self-study strategy.

Strategy # 1. Learn to communicate with girls step by step.

You can start developing this skill with training on "cats", ie. on those girls with whom you already know. These can be those with whom you study, work, or just your acquaintances / girlfriends.

Having started communication on one of the topics, you can move on to another topic, “grasping” at an insignificant detail. For example, if you start talking about pets, then you can move on to their behavior in the spring, and then start talking about the seasons.

This method of generating new topics of conversation has already proven itself to be good.

Then, when communication with familiar girls will be given to you quite successfully, you can start studying with unfamiliar girls.

Pros of the step-by-step strategy:

There is confidence that they will listen to you

No major discomfort in skill development

Minuses:

You may not always be able to see how effectively you communicate, because your friends / acquaintances may perceive you just as a friend (and therefore not refuse to communicate) or listen to you just out of politeness.

Strategy # 2. Into the "hell".

Following this path of development, you start communicating immediately with unfamiliar girls. For example, walking down the street to a store, you come up to a girl and start chatting (acquaintance in this case should not be a goal, but a pleasant bonus). And you try to communicate with her as long and interesting as possible so that she listens to you and wants to continue the conversation.

You should communicate with unfamiliar girls several times a day, 7 days a week.

If you like a complex skill development strategy, then you can come up with other, even more complex and interesting tasks. For example, call an unfamiliar girl (whose number your friend will give you) and chat for 15 minutes.

Pros of the strategy:

The more difficult it is to develop, the faster this development takes place.

You will almost always see the real reaction of the girl, and know how effective / interesting you are in communication. After all, all power is in the truth! ;) If the stranger does not want to continue the conversation, then this is a reason to change your approach.

Minuses:

If your skills are far from a good level, then with the lack of results, a desire to "merge" may come. Nothing scares you like misunderstanding and unwillingness to just waste your time. However, if you force yourself to move on, then you can come to the result much faster than with step-by-step development.

Emotionality in conversation

How vividly you are in the conversation will directly depend on the result you get. Girls come on dates for emotions. To convey them through speech, it is important to speak emotionally.

Therefore, try to speak only on those topics that are really interesting to you. If you are enthusiastic about your hobby, then it will be interesting for her to talk about this topic, and she herself will not want to end such communication.

Then it is important to remember the speed and tone with which you spoke to her on these topics, and try to communicate in the same way, but on other topics.

Also include listening to the speech of people who often speak in front of an audience in your development program. Try to remember exactly how they tell their story and try to use their styles in your conversation with the girl.

Over time, you will develop your own unique communication style that everyone will like. Especially girls. ;)

Calibration

Because we are talking about communicating with the opposite sex, then you need to admit to yourself that you want not just to communicate, but to make girls fall in love with you. These different goals require a different approach.

And in order to quickly learn to communicate competently with the opposite sex, you need to be able to observe and correctly interpret the reaction of the interlocutor. This is called "calibration".

Every time you talk to a girl, look: Does she straighten her hair.

Smiling or not.

Does he ask you questions.

He wants to leave, having completed the communication as soon as possible, or, on the contrary, wants to continue it.

In a closed position (arms crossed on her chest) or open (turned her body towards you, throws her hair back, exposing her neck).

Her legs are pointing in your direction or not.

Only these signs can tell you the whole truth about the effectiveness of your communication with her.

We gave you the most simple but effective advice. But remember: without putting them into practice, nothing will change for you. Only practice will give you experience. And only with experience will you learn to feel what and how best to talk with each specific girl.